The woman in the room who never seems to fall apart. You know her. Every woman does. She loses a job and somehow finds her footing within weeks. Her relationship ends and she grieves, but she does not disappear. Her plans collapse, and she builds new ones without making everyone around her feel the weight of the disaster. She is not cold. She is not in denial. She is not pretending everything is fine.She is resilient. And according to psychology, the way she talks to herself and to others is one of the clearest signs of that resilience. According to the American Psychological Association, resilience is not a personality trait that only a lucky few are born with. It is a set of thoughts, behaviours and habits that anyone can develop over time. And one of the most visible ways it shows up is through the language resilient people use, the specific phrases they reach for when life gets hard. Here are 7 phrases that psychologically strong women commonly use, and the science behind why each one works.