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A colleague’s chair bumps into you. You say sorry. Your colleague walks in late for a call you were both waiting on. You say sorry. You raise your hand in a meeting to ask a question you have every right to ask and somehow "sorry, quick question" slips out before the actual question does. Sound familiar? Here's the thing. You're not being polite. You're running a script. One that plays on loop, whether you want it to or not.For the longest time, this got brushed off as just a "woman thing": being nice, being soft, being easy to work with. But psychologists who've actually studied the habit say there's a lot more happening under the surface. That reflexive sorry isn't random. It's shaped by how you were raised, how quickly your brain reads a room, and how society quietly trained you to take up less space. Here's what the research actually says it reveals about you.