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Rereading old messages after an argument is a sign of rumination.The human brain tries to give logic to unresolved emotions.People who have anxiety want to understand everything that is said to them, as they are always scared of making mistakes and want to avoid conflict in all ways to protect the relationship and not repeat fights.People with perfectionism suffer from negative bias, and they stick to the emotional event in their mind.This habit does no good to them; it is mentally exhausting.Rereading messages creates a fake sense of control and closure. The mind remembers everything and makes us feel invested in the narrative we want to make of the situation and the relationship over the reality of it.This habit in some people stems from their childhood experiences. Divya Mohindroo, Counselling Psychologist, Embrace Imperfections, shares insights on what it means when you keep revisiting old messages.